No matter how many children you have parenting can be amazing, knackering, frustrating, beautiful and even more tiring!
Before I had Elijah I was excited, but equally as daunted. How was I going to cope with two children ? Two children under two.
When I had Samuel (my first) it was hard because I didn’t no what to expect, I worried all the time. Worst of all I pressured myself to be the image of a ‘perfect mummy’ the image I had created before I had any children!
You no the one, the mummy that will:
- Never shout
- Give her children chocolate
- Let them watch television
- Bribe her children with the promise of snacks.
I also let other pressures get on top of me, there are so many pressures to exclusively breast feed. I struggled feeding Samuel, it seemed like all he wanted to do is feed. When I cried to the health visitor telling her that he wanted to feed 11,12,13 times a day she just said that’s normal every baby is different. She made me feel bad when I suggested giving him a bottle for a few feeds a day, or maybe I made myself feel bad. Because I had imagined feeding my baby until he was weaned onto cows milk, in the end I gave Samuel 1-2 bottles of formula a day and breast feed the rest of the time until he was 5 1/2 months.
I feel differently now, maybe because I know that we can’t be perfect, that some days you will be super mum and bake the healthy snacks you see on Instagram. Other days you will need ten cups of coffee and the help of Justin fletcher to entertain your little munchkins.
At the moment I am very much the second mummy, but that’s ok Elijah is only 5 weeks old and we are slowly but surely getting used to our new family rhythm, and getting out the house with two little people! (Which is soooo much harder!)
So when I was struggling with feeding 2 weeks ago with Elijah, I spoke to the midwife and asked if it would be too early to start combination feeding. I did feel a bit like a failure because again before I had Elijah my ideal was to exclusively breast feed not just because of all the health benefits but because it was soooo much cheaper, and I didn’t want the faff of making and sterilising bottles! The midwife was so supportive and basically told me I had to do what was best for my family. I agree, Elijah’s feeding was established so there was no problems giving him a little formula, just to give my nipples a few hours break, my milk would still be enough to feed him the rest of the time.
This was the best thing I’ve done because it helped me to continue breastfeeding, I’ve managed to increase my milk flow and I’m now going to try and express a little so I can replace the formula with expressed milk, (but if I can’t that’s ok too).
The great advantage of giving Elijah a bottle is hubby can feed him, he really enjoys this and it’s a lovely bonding experience for them, it’s so lovely to see.
Although the Midwife’s and health visitors really encourage people to breast feed they don’t tell you how hard it can be.
I think the best thing to do is just trust your instincts and do what is best for you and your family. In the end that’s what really matters.
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